With big name celebrities such as Kristen Stewart hitting the headlines over their infidelities, we begin to wonder if cheating has become a socially accepted norm. Is cheating in relationships really as prolific as we are led to believe? Teacup Conversation investigates…
Cheating. It seems like everyone is at it. Throughout the years high profile celebs with wandering eyes including Tiger Woods and Ashley Cole have been caught in the act. Unfortunately, infidelity is not exclusive to just the rich and famous, it’s a very real problem, affecting almost all of us.
Teacup Conversation carried out an independent survey on men and women aged 18-49 and the results showed that 34.8% of those questioned had cheated on a partner at some point in their lives, which seems like a relatively small proportion. However, 69.6% of the surveys participants claimed that they themselves had been victim of a cheating partner and 47.8% said that they had helped enable someone else to cheat. All of the surveys participants thought that cheating was morally wrong, however 17.4% thought there were circumstances where cheating was acceptable. Some reasons given for this were a partner’s long term illness and simply liking another person more.
When asked to define what cheating entailed, understandably sexual activity with another person ranked top, with 100% of all participants agreeing that this was cheating. Next came kissing with 95.7% and then ‘sexting’ (the sending of explicit text messages) with 82.6% of participants agreeing this was also cheating. A much smaller 4.3% thought that flirting and dancing with someone other than a partner, was also considered as cheating.
So, what do these facts show us? Well overall, the results seem comparatively low. In fact it seems quite different to what we hear and see every day in the media. However, worryingly it does highlight that cheating is a growing trend and still very much a problem in today’s society.
A contributing factor could be that new technology is making it easier to hide infidelities than ever before. Hugely popular apps such as Cate are enabling and creating new possibilities for those who might be tempted to stray. Cate describes itself as a ‘personal Call and Text Eraser app utilized for protection’ and boasts that users can communicate with ‘true privacy.’ Cate has amassed well over 10,000 downloads, and continues to grow in popularity. Social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter have also been blamed for an increase in cheating and relationship break downs, with users being able to reconnect with old flames and chat to future conquests.
So is ‘sexting’ really the problem? Another independent survey by Teacup Conversation suggests that it may very well be. 76.9% of those surveyed said that they had participated in ‘sexting’ at some point in their lives. 76.9% thought that using ‘sexting’ was damaging in a relationship, but shockingly, 53.8% had continued to ‘sext’ other people when they were in a relationship. The survey also highlighted that couples used ‘sexting’ and technology to help them stay close when they were physically apart.